What is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion can be likened to the act of offering ourselves an umbrella on a rainy day.
Take a moment to recall an act of compassion you’ve done for another person. Were you able to notice that he/she was suffering? Were you able to feel how difficult his/her experience could be as well as the desire to help him/her in some way? Were you able to offer understanding and kindness to the person instead of judging him/her harshly?
Having compassion for oneself is really no different than having compassion for others. Mindful self-compassion involves acting the same way towards yourself when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don’t like about yourself. It means you honour and accept your humanness. Things don't always go your way - there will be frustrations, losses, defeats, mistakes and other unfortunate events in life. This is the human condition, a reality shared by all of us and as Dr. Kristen Neff mentioned, “The more you open your heart to this reality instead of constantly fighting against it, the more you will be able to feel compassion for yourself and all your fellow humans in the experience of life.”
The Three Elements of Self-Compassion
Benefits of Self-Compassion
As a practice and approach to living, mindful self-compassion aims at profound flourishing. Practiced over a period of time, it creates an emotionally balanced, meaningful life, animated by a spirit of compassion and caring. Mindful self-compassion is able to bring about an array of benefits including:
Can the skill of Self-Compassion be learnt?
Yes, the skill of self-compassion can be learnt and developed through diligent practice over a period of time. The image below charts how self-compassion can typically be developed:
With proper guidance and training from certified trainers and field experts, you can expect to enjoy the benefits of
self-compassion as they manifest in your life.
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